Modern Day Barometer of Relationships

How many of you love the show Seinfeld? I still can’t get enough – I watch re-runs.  Ever since I was de-friended, and re-friended, and then de-friended again by an acquaintance, I have wanted to write this post.  Remember the episode from Seinfeld where Lauren Graham guest starred, and she played Jerry’s girlfriend, and she used speed-dial on her corded home telephone as a barometer for how the relationship was going?  Here is a clip of the episode as a refresher in case you don’t have every episode memorized cold like I do:  Clip from Season 8, Episode 20 of Seinfeld.

It’s an interesting social, psychological experiment.  Wouldn’t it be interesting if we could “rank” our friends on facebook like speed-dial on a telephone? Isn’t facebook, and all social media a kind of speed dial list – we de-friend and re-friend when it suits us.  We are #1 one day and off the grid another.  The modern-day Seinfeld would certainly include an episode on “friending,” “de-friending,” and perhaps “re-friending.”  As I write this, I realize facebook has also created new dictionary terms of unfriending, friending etc.  In any case, due to recent events where people have “unfriended” me because some high school friend over 20 years ago is still pissed at me for something I had no idea I did, and because I posted a factual news story about unruly Seattle Seahawks’ fans, or a political post or two, I realize that social media is a new yet analogous barometer for our relationships.  When someone deactivates and leaves facebook then, have they simply had enough?  I had a “friend” unfollow me on twitter once because of gun control comments in the wake of the Colorado theater shooting.  She didn’t just unfollow me though, when I confronted her and apologized, she never replied, and has disappeared from my life forever.  We used to send holiday cards to one another.  Clearly, social media is not just a modern-day barometer for relationships, it defines them.  30 years ago you knew how your neighbors felt on certain issues but you still attended BBQs with them and broke bread with them.  With social media, people meet in person less, and social media posts are the only way to “judge” someone.  People feel more comfortable posting things and not saying them to someone’s face directly.  When someone like me prefers to be direct, it makes the other person uncomfortable.  They disappear completely and “block” me out (literally).  It’s an interesting phenomenon.

The new age is referred to by the name, “GENERATION LIKE,” but it goes beyond liking someone’s posts or their photos and re-pinning their pins.  Social media is re-defining human interaction.  Our relationships are more fragile than ever, because now, instead of depending on in-person interactions with body language, and all the interpersonal skills that come with direct interactions, we have to interpret tone and intent from an E-mail, text message, and/or the limited 140 characters on twitter.  From a simple “unfriend” or “unfollow” action, we must conclude, “oh oh that person doesn’t like me.”  WHAT!?  What am I supposed to do with that?  I mean, come on, how much can my brain handle, really. And finally, should I even care?  Well, friends, the new barometer on relationships is social media and the simple, meaningless acts which occur on them.  Keep it real, folks, and if you want to talk to someone, I recommend just calling, or doing the traditional “pop-in” if they live close by.  It is so much easier than losing the friendship over a social media post.

And, let’s not even get into how some may interpret the intent of my blog posts, I’ll save that for another post, or not.

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Perfect Moment Monday – Where does the time go?

IMG_9383My friend, Lori, is retiring her linky to “Perfect Moment Monday (PMM).”  She is right, she should not feel obligated to find perfect moments.  They should happen, and we either notice, or we don’t.  Sometimes, we are so busy, we miss some too!  These moments can happen at anytime, not just Mondays, or weekends, but always.  We just have to notice them.  I started looking back on the perfect moment posts I have written.  I do not remember feeling obligated at all, but enjoyed every minute.  To see all my PMM posts, look under category, “Perfect Moment,” and all the posts will appear.  My favorite ones are, by far, these two PMM posts:

IMG_9410(1) Two Years and Growing – this one brought back such fond memories.   Even as I write my PMM for this past weekend, I realize that three years have passed already since this post, and my little girl will change and grow daily.  I love writing milestone posts about my sweet little ones because not only do I capture the memories, I feel that I share something meaningful with my readers too!

(2) Twinkling Little Stars–  This one is near and dear to my heart since I now fly away once a month, and I cannot return home Saturday nights to see them or hear them sing.  This particular post melts my heart because I was so lucky to capture these moments with my sweet little ones.  Now that I frequently fly out of town for one of my jobs, I am sad that I cannot return home to experience this but I still hold them close to my heart.

IMG_9419Ah, where does the time go?  Here I am writing about a perfect moment about this weekend.  My little one’s milestone birthday weekend.  She is now five years old!  Hard to believe that she starts Kindergarten this fall, and will start a new journey in her young life.  I wish I could freeze time for just a few years, and hold on longer to these moments, but alas, we have brought them into this world to let them go into it… to leave us, and do great things.  Easier said than done, huh?

This past weekend’s perfect moment was not just the time we spent together, which was fabulous.  It wasn’t the date night that hubby and I enjoyed seeing “The Mousetrap” at the Arvada Center.  It wasn’t the birthday party itself, or just the Friday night fun we had with friends and one another.  It was all of the above and the other little moments that we don’t always capture on camera or video.  For example, the kids cuddling up with popcorn on the sofa and saying the funniest, cutest things about what their favorite thing this weekend was. My 5-year-old exclaimed, “I liked when I saw all my friends- nothing else.”  Or, it was the moment when my 6-year old playing air guitar by herself, and laughing.  She thought no one saw.

IMG_9387How many perfect moments can you notice?  How many do you miss?  I suspect we miss a lot more than we catch, but for me, all the moments in total made this weekend perfect.  Monday will come too quick and off we will go our separate ways to work and school, but the memories of all these little moments, of all this shared time together really make life perfect!  For me, they define #perfectmoment Monday.  Lori, I will miss #perfectmoment Mondays, but thanks to you I will definitely keep noticing them.  Thanks for the opportunity, and thanks for the memories.

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Soybu Grand-Opening — Denver #loveyourbody

SoybuAh, life in yoga pants!  I could come to love that.  Trust me, you do not have to perform yoga to love the gear.  It is important to have practical, comfortable clothes to move in no matter what you do.

On Wednesday night, I had the opportunity to attend the grand opening of the Soybu flagship store, and it was fabulous!  Thanks to Denver Mile High Mamas, I learned of this event and was lucky enough to attend with some fabulous ladies.  Obviously, we got to try on all the Soybu we wanted, and they offered us 25% off all our purchases, but we were lucky enough to meet some of the other generous vendors in the Cherry Hills Marketplace- Bundt shoppe let us try four decadent flavors of cakes, and Cherry Hills marketplace hair stylists and colorists were on-site to make us feel beautiful too!  What a great ladies night!

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You can receive 25% off on all purchases through February 23, Sunday, at their store or on-line at the Soybu website.  Be sure to check it out, and see what fits you best!  They have amazing sales on-line and in-stores.  Don’t miss out and while you are at Cherry Hills Marketplace, check out Trader Joe’s, the Bundt Shoppe and other vendors.

Disclaimer: Thanks to Mile High Mamas for partnering with Soybu. I received a store credit to purchase clothing for my review. All opinions and views expressed are my own.

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