I posted twice before along my 100-day journey on the YOU@The Center course which has taught me so much. I thought this time, as I write this, at day 83, it would be nice to share the things I have learned and some, I am still learning to perfect. The inspiration for this post is the 100-day course, because frankly, this course has opened my eyes. Every day, no matter what I am doing, I notice all I do, and how I spend my time. For example, at work earlier this week, I caught myself multi-tasking and not doing any one of the tasks right. I stopped and immediately focused on one thing. It makes a difference!
The course has benefitted me, and now you can benefit too! I want to share this opportunity with you, so you can make space in your life for the things that matter the most to YOU! Below is a coupon for $100 off Rachel Davis’ next session (expires Jan 6, 2015), so don’t delay. Make your New Year’s resolution to do something positive and meaningful for you. If you have questions about the 100-Day Course, you can go to the Course Description page or to the Frequently Asked Questions page to find out more. If you still have questions, you can contact Rachel at: GetCentered@YouAtTheCenter.com. By the way, Rachel is an amazing listener. If you are unsure if this course is right for you, she can talk with you about why that may or may not be the case.
I knew some of this already, but the course is an inspiration for the top 10 things I want to share with you:
1. Control is but an illusion – I can’t control it all, nor can I expect to. If I think I can control things, I am just disappointed when things do not go my way. So, in the words of the movie my kiddos love, “let it go!”
2. Health is more important than anything else. If you don’t have good health, you can’t have anything else. Staying healthy is even harder than before, and it requires more effort. See #1 above. I plan things, but will likely have to cancel because I will get sick and I have no control over the illness, or worse, cannot predict how long it will last.
3. Some things are just way more than important than other things. For example, work is what I do, and does not define who I am. With this knowledge, I am able to separate myself from work. I do not get emotional or take things personally when a substantive issue comes up at work. When I separate myself from work, I am a happier, more productive, and better mom, wife, and a better employee! Yes, because when I am a better at all the above, I excel at all I do, including work. Imagine that!
4. Taking a lesson from No. 3 above, this is what is important to me: kids, spouse, parents, and family, and the health of my loved ones. These are matters worth taking personally. All else pales in comparison to these relationships. If you invest in these relationships, you will rarely have regret, and will be better at all you undertake. In the 100-day course I took, chapter 12 focuses on relationships. Not just the relationship with you, but with others. It’s eye-opening.
5. Be positive in all you do. Finding the positive in all is contagious, and ultimately leads to happiness. I have found, over the years, that positive people are the best leaders too! Those who are pessimistic, negative, who speak negative things, and those who speak ill of others, or gossip are toxic. But these people are also unhappy to the core. The secret to success, whether personal, business, or career, is being positive, even in the roughest moments. This life lesson was re-affirmed through the course, and I was happy to learn new skills and techniques to distance myself from the negative and the worthless.
6. Be proactive! Stop always being in reactive mode. I find that I used to be reactive and was always responding to worthless things. Completely useless emails/facebook posts/comments by others. Sometimes, it is better to disengage from things that don’t add value to your life (all aspects of your life), and you will be happier if you stop reacting. Another aspect to this is, don’t respond to unnecessary drama created by others. Be proactive- no one can change the people or their actions around you, but you can control and change how you respond to it. I liked that aspect of this course when it came to relationships too. Chapter 12 was about relationships, and was super helpful.
7. Use your vacation days, and turn off technology. This one is tough for me because I am still learning how to perfect this. It is hard for me to turn it off. The truth is, as kids get older, they watch our every move. If you are multitasking, and not paying attention to them because your head is buried in a phone, they will mimic your behaviors. More than that, you are not present in anything. When you can’t focus on one thing at a time, you are doing all of it wrong. Walking and texting, for example? You are not doing either of them properly. It leads to mistakes. Multitasking also leads to mistakes. If you turn it all off, and focus on one thing, you will do that one thing right, and quickly and efficiently, freeing up your time and your mind to focus on other things that follow. I love that the 100-day course has taught me to catch myself when I am mutlitasking. I catch myself, and I stop. I focus, I bring that before me in focus, and I am more efficient, and more accurate.
8. Do what you love and engage your passion. I love the 100-day course because I still love the question posed, “what you would be doing if time and money were not an issue?” Write down the answer. Now, ask yourself, “what is stopping you?”
9. Material possessions are not more important than the relationships you build, and the people in your life. You have material possessions and wealth today, but tomorrow, you could lose it all. All that matters is the people you surround yourself with. When you are not attached to material things, you are happier because you truly focus on that which is important. This, in turn may help you improve health, your mental and emotional state, and your relationships with others and yourself.
10. Love with all your heart, like you have never experienced a broken heart, dance like you have never fallen, and give like you have all the riches in the world and expect nothing in return. Only then, can you experience true happiness.
What a great way to start the New Year off right – the 100 Day Course and $100 off!
Disclaimer: I was compensated with a free course with Rachel Davis in exchange for four sponsored posts. The opinions and life lessons expressed here in are my own.