I gave up Facebook for Lent

It’s not a big deal at all, but it kinda was.  I left my personal Facebook for lent.  I had to keep up my Ratna GetCluedIn profile but only because I have an automatic post to Get Clued In! on Facebook.  It has been two weeks since I last posted and I have to go until at least April 5th.  The hardest day was a snow day we had here in Denver.  I so wanted to post all the snowy goodness that had covered our city, but could not.  But, so far it is so refreshing and nice to be off of Facebook.  At a minimum, I am glad the app is off my phone – deleted/uninstalled.  It is NOT coming back even if I come back to the desktop version in 35 days.  Here are some things I have learned through this experiment so far and I will do an after-action post when this is all said and done.

1.  First, it’s amazing how much people rely on Facebook for their social life.  It is a sort of alter-social life.  No need to meet in person or call, just check Facebook.  Done. It is nice to be in touch with good friends during this time, but they had to pick up the phone and call me, text me, or oh the horror, E-mail me.  It is nice to get E-mails from friends that I used to just direct message on Facebook.  Oh, the latest is that family members and friends are trying to friend me on my facebook account for my blog- Ratna Get Clued In.  I am not checking that site though either and apparently they are all messaging me there.  I have no idea why people can’t just email or call – oh the humanity!

2.  Other than grandparents, most everyone missed my daughter’s birthday.  I think because they are so used to relying on my posts sharing too much information all the time, they just expected to see it as a reminder.  Of course, the converse is true too.  I missed many of my friends’ birthdays too.  Hmmm… here is a thought in spite of Facebook, if we were real friends, why would I need a reminder.  Shouldn’t I remember such things? I really wanted to wish my dad a Happy 70th Birthday on Facebook because the phone calls, card and planned cruise in three weeks are simply not enough.  It didn’t happen if it isn’t on Facebook, right?  My birthday falls in the next 2 weeks too, and my page is deactivated, so it will be interesting to see who remembers.  My guess is just close family.  It’s okay.  It’s really no big deal.

3.   We have become so dependent on social media that we do not even want to see people in person anymore or call.  A friend of mine who never saw my post that I was leaving Facebook for lent texted me and asked why we are not friends, and why I cannot be found anymore.  It is distressing I suspect for all those who did not see my farewell post before deactivatng.  I mean no harm – I come in peace.  No, I did not “unfriend” you, I just need a break from all the stuff and information overload.  Frankly, I grow weary of over sharing my information too.  I am sure I am not even missed.

4.  But I do have friends who still call, E-mail, and text and we stay in touch. This is slowly but surely teaching me that IF I return to Facebook, I will be scaling back. It’s not that I do not like you, but I like myself more.  I respect myself enough that if I do not remember you, I will not let you into my every thought.  So, yes, it is okay to “unfriend.” When did that become a word anyway?  How can I “unfriend” you if I do not even remember you nor remember the last time you called me or spent time with me, or what you meant to me 25+ years ago, right?  A good friend has a rule for FB and I think I like it, “if I do not hear from you (phone/email/text) or see you in person at least once every few years, I am not going to allow you to see my life on Facebook.  I like it!  Why do we hold on to the past through social media if we do not do it in real life?

5.  Finally, what I have found so far is that I am not curious at all.  I really do not feel that I am missing out on Facebook, other than for my blog and my blogging mom friends who may post exciting local events.  Other than that, I really do not feel I am missing anything.  Maybe all the over sharing just did me in and I think as 2016 approaches, it may prove to be a good idea to be off of social media altogether anyway.  Politics – sheesh!

I am so glad I gave up Facebook for Lent.  Stay tuned…

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Fat Cat’s Westminster – A great place on a cold, snowy day

LogoFatCatWhen the kids are out of school, and the weather outside is not so delightful, we like taking the kids to Fat Cat’s in Westminster to burn off some steam, and have great family time too!  We went over Thanksgiving break, and plan to go some more as the weather cools down again.  We played mini-golf there which is quite fun for younger kids learning to putt-putt.  It’s glow in the dark, pirate mini-golf.  We played the video games and laser tag game which is very neat and the prices are reasonable for the golf and laser tag games.  1t1a8402fatcatsThe Fat Cat’s Center boasts a snack bar with food, and a full bowling alley!  There is something for everyone, and now, with this deal, you can take the whole family for dinner, bowling, and great fun!   I saw their party packages when we last went, and they are reasonable and have a variety of activities for kids of all ages.

You can sign up at http://www.fatcatsfun.com/free_stuff for your next Birthday party and Fat Cat’s will even send you a free Birthday gift!  Also, go check them out.  Right now, with this coupon from Colorado Kids.Com, you get the following:

Family Special 69.99 per lane – 2 hours of Bowling and shoes for up to 6 people
2 pitchers of soda
1 Large, two topping pizza
Offer good for up to 6 people 11am-8pm

Disclaimer:  Colorado Kids moms-connect provided free family bowling and the package above for our family in exchange for this post and a future review of our experience.  The opinions expressed here are my own.

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Get Clued In’s Year in Review – 2014

Last year’s review paints 2013 as a great year, both personally and professionally. This year has been both busy and ended with a lot of random illness sweeping through the house, and apparently our extended family’s homes.  Hopefully, 2015 sees the end of the bad juju of illness sweeping through all our homes.  We didn’t travel as much as last year, but we did our share of trips and had a great time.  I took a life-changing journey of taking a 100-day course, and it has been eye-opening.  I did a lot of promotions and even a big tech switch.

Here are my top posts for 2014, not necessarily because of traffic to the site, but because I enjoyed writing them and sharing with you:

10.  A Review of Samsung Galaxy s5 Active with Gear Fit –  In the area of technology and some changes, I went from an iphone 4S to a Samsung.  What a fun and different journey.  The iphone is great for some things, and the android is better in some areas.  They are both great, but I enjoyed writing this review, and I have enjoyed my free Samsung Galaxy s5 active and Gear Fit that I won at a AT&T blogger event.  What fun it’s been.  I passed down the 4S to hubby and he loves having a modern data phone, and shhhh, I still use my old iphone for some tricks I still can’t figure out how to do properly on my droid.

9.  Things I am still learning – You@TheCenter (R) $100 offer- I did a lot of fun promotions, attended some great blog events, but this was by far the most life-changing, beneficial perk I received as a blogger.  I took a course which has been life-altering, and as the New Year begins, one which I can take to greater heights through the amazing things I have learned and put into practice.  Here’s to 2015, and possibly better focus on things that matter: Me, and the things which are top priority for us.

8.  Magical fun showing our #DisneySide @Home Celebration - Another cool and exciting opportunity as a blogger centered on doing something fun with my kids, and yet another punch card list, action item met from the 100-day course.  We had a great time showing our #DisneySide and hosting a fun party, and it was also right around my birthday and my younger daughter’s birthday.  Can’t beat that!

7.  City Girls Visit a Farm - Right in line with spending quality time with the kiddos, I had the rare opportunity to attend a fun and educational field trip with my daughter’s Kindergarten class.  Not only was the cuteness factor completely exceeded, we brought home bags and bags of organic fruits and vegetables to share with friends, and cook up into great, healthy meals.  What a fun time, and I know memories we will cherish for a long time to come!

6.  From Philly to Washington, D.C.  – Independence Day in our Nation’s Capitol –  Our trips were fun too and always eventful.   Our trip in summer took us to the east coast for a wedding, and seeing family and friends from all over the world.  Visiting our nation’s capitol meant a lot to the girls, and the birthplace of Independence.   And, it was Independence weekend to boot!  How can you not love that.  From the Pandas at the National Zoo, to the liberty bell, and everything in between, we had a great time, and saw fireworks from a rooftop condo where we stayed.

5.  Florida- ahh - We also made two trips to Florida, one late in 2013 into New Year 2014, and then another one to shower my sister-in-law to welcome a baby in hot July and August of 2014.  Florida is far away, but it is full of family, and friends for us, and so many exciting things to do.  How can we not love Florida – ahhhh!  And if we time it just right, we can avoid those nasty Colorado winter sub-zero, arctic temps.

4.  Frozen at Hollywood Studios- “All good things” on a 110-degree day – The second time we went to Florida, we were all dripping and soaking wet from the sweat and heat – it was summer in Florida, but we were there for a good cause, and so we did what most tourists do, visit Disney’s Hollywood Studios and cooled off with the gang from FROZEN.  It felt great on a hot, humid, 100-degree PLUS day in Central Florida.  And we met the whole cast, and then some, and we sucked it up, ate a lot of ice cream and snow cones, sprayed water bottles on each other (with fans built-in) and made it all work.

3.  Milestones and Memories- Her First Sleepover-  Then begin the memories and milestones posts.  What an eventful year for our children, and so many firsts.  My eldest daughter went on her first sleepover.  May not seem like a big deal, but it so is!   Not just for her, but for all of us.  They just grow up so fast, so happy we have this blog, and so many other captured memories to help us remember how I felt, what we saw, and what we captured and remembered.

2. Perfect Moment Monday – Where does the time go?  My friend Lori hosted her last Perfect Moment Monday, and this was the final installment on Get Clued In!  Not only that, but it captured the weekend in February perfectly.  We had family in town, and celebrated by daughter’s milestone 5th birthday, and then enjoyed a date night – how exciting! Noticing is important, and capturing these moments is even more important.   Time just flies!

1.  Milestones & Memories — They are both in School!  Finally, our favorite milestone moment from 2014 – they both are in school!  Our youngest started Kindergarten, and now we have one drop, one pick up, and in August, a lot of anxiety from all especially mommy. How can she be in Kinderrgarten already? Letting go is hard, but they teach us, one small step at a time.  Our eldest is in 2nd and youngest in K, and now we struggle with camps during their breaks, and what to do during those random in-service days.  It is hard indeed, but with any milestone, we will overcome yet again and focus on the positives and blessings in our lives.

Here is to 2015 and many, many more amazing milestones and memories, and wishing you and your loved ones a Happy 2015 filled with goodness, happiness, love, success, and most of all – HEALTH!  Thanks, as always, for taking this amazing journey with me, with us.

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Things I am still learning – You@TheCenter (R) $100 offer

logo-drop-shadowI posted twice before along my 100-day journey on the YOU@The Center course which has taught me so much.  I thought this time, as I write this, at day 83, it would be nice to share the things I have learned and some, I am still learning to perfect.  The inspiration for this post is the 100-day course, because frankly, this course has opened my eyes.  Every day, no matter what I am doing, I notice all I do, and how I spend my time. For example, at work earlier this week, I caught myself multi-tasking and not doing any one of the tasks right.  I stopped and immediately focused on one thing.  It makes a difference!

The course has benefitted me, and now you can benefit too!   I want to share this opportunity with you, so you can make space in your life for the things that matter the most to YOU!  Below is a coupon for $100 off Rachel Davis’ next session (expires Jan 6, 2015), so don’t delay. Make your New Year’s resolution to do something positive and meaningful for you.   If you have questions about the 100-Day Course, you can go to the Course Description page or to the Frequently Asked Questions page to find out more. If you still have questions, you can contact Rachel at: GetCentered@YouAtTheCenter.com.  By the way, Rachel is an amazing listener. If you are unsure if this course is right for you, she can talk with you about why that may or may not be the case.

 I knew some of this already, but the course is an inspiration for the top 10 things I want to share with you:

1.  Control is but an illusion – I can’t control it all, nor can I expect to.  If I think I can control things, I am just disappointed when things do not go my way.  So, in the words of the movie my kiddos love, “let it go!”

2.  Health is more important than anything else.  If you don’t have good health, you can’t have anything else.  Staying healthy is even harder than before, and it requires more effort.  See #1 above.  I plan things, but will likely have to cancel because I will get sick and I have no control over the illness, or worse, cannot predict how long it will last.

3.  Some things are just way more than important than other things.  For example, work is what I do, and does not define who I am.  With this knowledge, I am able to separate myself from work.   I do not get emotional or take things personally when a substantive issue comes up at work.  When I separate myself from work, I am a happier, more productive, and better mom, wife, and a better employee!  Yes, because when I am a better at all the above, I excel at all I do, including work.  Imagine that!

4.  Taking a lesson from No. 3 above, this is what is important to me:  kids, spouse, parents, and family, and the health of my loved ones.  These are matters worth taking personally.  All else pales in comparison to these relationships.   If you invest in these relationships, you will rarely have regret, and will be better at all you undertake.  In the 100-day course I took, chapter 12 focuses on relationships.  Not just the relationship with you, but with others.  It’s eye-opening.

5.  Be positive in all you do.  Finding the positive in all is contagious, and ultimately leads to happiness.  I have found, over the years, that positive people are the best leaders too! Those who are pessimistic, negative, who speak negative things, and those who speak ill of others, or gossip are toxic. But these people are also unhappy to the core.  The secret to success, whether personal, business, or career, is being positive, even in the roughest moments.  This life lesson was re-affirmed through the course, and I was happy to learn new skills and techniques to distance myself from the negative and the worthless.

6. Be proactive!  Stop always being in reactive mode.  I find that I used to be reactive and was always responding to worthless things.  Completely useless emails/facebook posts/comments by others.  Sometimes, it is better to disengage from things that don’t add value to your life (all aspects of your life), and you will be happier if you stop reacting.   Another aspect to this is, don’t respond to unnecessary drama created by others.  Be proactive- no one can change the people or their actions around you, but you can control and change how you respond to it.  I liked that aspect of this course when it came to relationships too. Chapter 12 was about relationships, and was super helpful.

7.  Use your vacation days, and turn off technology.  This one is tough for me because I am still learning how to perfect this.  It is hard for me to turn it off.  The truth is, as kids get older, they watch our every move.  If you are multitasking, and not paying attention to them because your head is buried in a phone, they will mimic your behaviors.  More than that, you are not present in anything.  When you can’t focus on one thing at a time, you are doing all of it wrong.  Walking and texting, for example?  You are not doing either of them properly.  It leads to mistakes.  Multitasking also leads to mistakes.  If you turn it all off, and focus on one thing, you will do that one thing right, and quickly and efficiently, freeing up your time and your mind to focus on other things that follow.  I love that the 100-day course has taught me to catch myself when I am mutlitasking.  I catch myself, and I stop. I focus, I bring that before me in focus, and I am more efficient, and more accurate.

8.  Do what you love and engage your passion.  I love the 100-day course because I still love the question posed, “what you would be doing if time and money were not an issue?” Write down the answer.  Now, ask yourself, “what is stopping you?”

9.  Material possessions are not more important than the relationships you build, and the people in your life.  You have material possessions and wealth today, but tomorrow, you could lose it all.  All that matters is the people you surround yourself with.  When you are not attached to material things, you are happier because you truly focus on that which is important.  This, in turn may help you improve health, your mental and emotional state, and your relationships with others and yourself.

10.  Love with all your heart, like you have never experienced a broken heart, dance like you have never fallen, and give like you have all the riches in the world and expect nothing in return.  Only then, can you experience true happiness.

What a great way to start the New Year off right – the 100 Day Course and $100 off!

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Disclaimer:  I was compensated with a free course with Rachel Davis in exchange for four sponsored posts.  The opinions and life lessons expressed here in are my own.  

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Walmart 2 Go – 2nd Delivery Review of #Walmarttogo

I picked myself up, dusted off the first delivery of #walmarttogo and gave it another try.  My first review is posted, and can be read here.  This time, I ordered on Tuesday for Wednesday evening delivery.  Remember to book it before you add items to your cart to snag the best possible time slot for you.  You can always change it before paying/confirming your order.  This time, after logging on, I snagged my slot, added items to my cart, and went through the process just like before.  I learned another important fact about the online ordering process.  You cannot change your delivery time or date on-line or through your account history once you place the order.  You have to call the customer service number and attempt this feat thru them.

The window was 6 to 8 p.m20140319-210239.jpg. and at 6:30 p.m., my order arrived.  Yeah! It was all there, and only one item was substituted.  I had “allowed” the substitution on this particular item.  Please read my earlier post for all the tips on the online ordering process.  Several people I know who have ordered have received late delivery, or even moved to the next day, but have not reported any other issues.  For my second order, I also ordered non-grocery items, and they brought the correct items.  I ordered household products and it worked out- this time.  You can also order electronics and anything else on the Walmart2Go website.   Another thing I checked out this time was whether the service offered in other areas, and it is not offered everywhere quite yet.  To check if your zip code qualifies for the walmart to go service, click here and plug in your zip code.  There is an option to enter your E-mail so you can be notified when it is available in your area.20140319-210318.jpg

After two deliveries, here are my PROS for home delivery: (1) You do not have to go out and shop, and (2) you do not buy items you do not need- i.e. impulse shopping.  Bottom line: Save time and gas!  The CONS are:  (1) You have to be at home for the delivery window, and may get a delay, or a no-show which means you may need to head out if you need something desperately; (2) Also, not all products may be available, and you may have to go out anyway, and (3) It costs money for home delivery, which is $7 for a two-hour window, and $5 for four-hour window.  Gas to run to the store once may not run you that much.

Good luck, and no matter what you choose, happy shopping!

Disclaimer:

As a participant in the Walmart to Go First program, I’ve received a personal invite and incentives for my time and efforts in creating this post.  The opinions expressed here are my own.

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