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Perfect Moment Monday- Memorializing Milestone Moments

Memorial Day weekends are generally busy, fun-filled weekends with us with one theme:  Family.  There wasn’t just one perfect moment this past week and weekend, but rather, a list.  Isn’t it great when you have too many to count?  And more importantly, isn’t it great when you can “memorialize” them to remember forever.  Here are my perfect moments for Memorial Day week 2011:

Anniversary

My husband and I got married on Memorial Day weekend, Sunday, the 29th of May and so we celebrate our anniversary each year on this special weekend.  This year went to Cinema Grill, watched a movie, and ate some snacks together.  We had a good time even on the drive there and back to just get caught up.  It’s hard to believe it has been six years.

Birthday

Our first daughter’s due date was on our anniversary but she arrived 5 days early- probably because she wanted her own special day instead of arriving on ours.  In any case, she was born on my brother’s birthday.  This past week, she had three birthdays– one at her school with princess cupcakes, one with family at her favorite burger joint, and of course, her gymnastics party with her classmates.  What a fun time for my little princess who turned four!  I can’t believe that time if flying by and soon, she will start school!  In any case, it was great to celebrate all these moments.

Family

Having family in town is always an adventure but of course, family is family.  The girls love having extra people in the house to forum shop with 🙂  and play with.  We always have family in town around this time because of Memorial Day weekend, and all the events and it’s fun.  Because of family in town, we have had opportunities to have date nights as well and that is priceless especially considering it was our anniversary month.

Memorial Day weekend is always busy for us but how can we forget these perfect moments — especially when we can put them in a posting lke this and “memorialize” them?

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Bridesmaids- A Movie Review

We saw the movie, Bridesmaids, last night and it was hilarious.  My mood was a little dampened from being at an AMC theater – keep in mind, I despise AMC and they still do not honor military for some odd reason.  But, I had a voucher for AMC that I needed to use so c’est la vie.  Of course, that did not stop me from enjoying my date night with hubby and seeing this hilarious movie!  It received 89% on rotten tomatoes and the theater was packed.  So much so that we almost had to sit up front.  It was a good movie but I think all the hype had me thinking it was better than it really was.  There are some scenes that got painful to watch because they were drawn out so long but it is a true comedy and raunchy at times so know what to expect, especially before you decide to take your kids along- I would say… no, not a kids movie.  It is definitely R-rated and for good reason- nudity, adult situations, and of course, language.  What would you expect from the makers of 40 year-old Virgin, Superbad, and Knocked Up?  Contrary to popular belief, it is not a chick flick and there’s something for everyone.  In fact, it was my hubbie that chose this one for us to see on our date night.   All in all, you should see it but whether it is in the theater or not, is your choice.  There is not high flying action or 3D, etc., requiring a theater watch like the new Pirates movie.  But, I have to say it is a good date movie and a great movie for girlfriends to go see together as well. 

Have you seen it?  What did you think?  Let us know!

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Vegas … Baby?

I spent four days in Las Vegas attending a conference and also spending one extra day with my hubby.  Since our oldest daughter was born almost four years ago, we have not had a vacation together alone… well, ever!  We spent a few hours in D.C. together but we have never just “gotten away.”  My parents were gracious enough to watch both girls so we could go on this extra long date together and it was great!  

I have not been to Vegas since 2002- I went there last time with my single girlfriend (at the time) we just did a girls’ trip.  I did not even know my husband then- I had not met him yet.  In any case, I remember how much I disliked that trip. I even took an excursion to the Grand Canyon that time to make it worth my time.  I do not gamble and steer clear of all gambling so the only draw for me to attend this conference in Vegas was that it was close and the topics of the conference were amazing!  Other than that, in my opinion, I could take or leave Vegas.  While there is a lot to do, shopping, spas, shows, and of course, gambling, it’s just not my kind of town.  The prices on the strip to just get a pretzel or slice of pizza were outrageous!  Not to mention, you get charged for everything.  Read my other reviews on Vegas too!  We saw Zumanity while there.  It was a great show and true to Cirque du Soleil form, quite elegant.  We also ate at a fancy restaurant for one of our lunch-time meals-Zefferino.  We stayed at the Flamingo Hotel and you can read that review as well.  I have to say, the hotel was not all that and the service stunk but it is an okay place to stay and cheap if you use comps and weekly specials.  If you can, sign up for all the rewards cards you can and even make sure your food that you buy gets swiped on it.   I wrote a review about the Nathan Burton Comedy Magic Show at the Flamingo Hotel. 

While Vegas is a decent place to visit if you want to do a lot that satisfies the needs of a lot of travellers:  from the gambler or shopaholic to spa-junkie, Vegas does have it all but I have to say you can probably do the same things in a lot of other towns and without the high price tag OR the smoke.  Yes, Nevada is not a smoke-free state so from the moment you step off the plane, it’s like you are transported back to the East Coast or Europe.  Everyone smokes inside and the hotel rooms stink.  My eyes were red every day and my head hurt all the time.  Smoking indoors is something I am no longer used to and I would not want to take my kids there.  If I want to play craps or the slots, Blackhawk, Colorado is not too far from home, and it is smoke free.  I can get a buffet there too!

All in all, I have to say, I enjoyed my time with my husband… the hanging out, the meal-times together, seeing Zumanity, walking around, sightseeing, and shopping.  We had a great time and getting away was priceless.  Vegas is a town that is good for couples but I do not recommend it as a destination trip for families.

Read my other Reviews on our Vegas Experience:

ZumanityNathan Burton Magic Comedy Show (in the Flamingo), Zefferino’s Restaurant inside of the VenetianFlamingo Casino and Hotel Review and Review of Serendipity-3 and Caesar’s Hotel

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Perfect Moment- A long overdue date with the love of my life

Yes, I am referring to my husband, of course.   Again, thanks to Write Mind Open Heart @LavLuz (twitter handle), here I am, posting another Perfect Moment Monday.  She’s right you know, when we look, we notice these amazing moments.  My previous post was about sweet moments with my kids.  I wish I had more time with them! 

But this weekend’s perfect moment was made possible by my daughters’ daycare.  We got a parents’ day out!  I have to say that was one the best Christmas presents to us parents who pay tons in tuition.  Since we do not have family or friends in town, we rarely get to go out alone, sans kids.  This past Saturday though my husband and I got to venture out alone.  It was strange, almost creepy strange, but so perfect!   We went to Flatirons mall and shopped a little and then took in a movie- something we NEVER get to do with small kids.   The movie we watched was “The Tourist” and all in all, we had a great outing.  Afterwards, we were able to spend a little more time talking as we ate appetizers at P.F. Chang’s.  It was relaxing and we had great conversation.  It’s amazing how much you talk about your kids and how much your life revolves around them especially when they are this little.   You almost always forget to talk about yourselves and these marital moments are so perfect- to converse, to hold hands, or just laugh together without being interrupted by screaming or even the conversations of a child.  My date with hubbie- my perfect moment Monday!

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The new face of mommies in America

I’ve been very curious about this new phenomena in America- having kids after 30.  While I look around at my friends who have kids and are my age, some of them are almost done with their parental duties.  I see 37-year old moms like myself who have 13 and 14 year olds.  They are almost done!  Me, though, I am just starting out.  I wanted to find out whether I was the rule or the anomaly.  Did I wait too long to have kids or are more and more new mommies in America over 30?

I had to do some research and found that since 1990, the face of new mommies in America has shifted.  For example mothers in 2008 were more educated and older than those mommies two decades ago. (1)  More and more women are considering these days in vitro and other fertility options, and not necessarily with partners  – women are adopting and having babies without marriage or a partner.  Also, homosexual partners are deciding to adopt or have children as well.  This significantly changes the face of the American mom or dad.  I do not think any of these changes are a bad thing, I am simply amazed that two decades can make that big of a difference!

Two decades ago, women over 35 were less likely to have a child than a teenager, but now that has shifted.  In 2010, more and more babies are born to women over the age of 35 and less and less to teenagers.  This may be a result of better education on issues like birth control, abstinence, and sex ed. in schools and at home.  Moreover, as a result of better education, and better birth control, it seems that even women in their 20s and early 30s are waiting longer and longer to have kids.

Of course, it is also a sign of the times.  As we evolve as a people, with advanced medicine, advances in technology, it is no wonder that we are becoming more selfish as a society too.  There are so many constraints on our time with TV, media, technology, and social constraints that more and more women are waiting until they are done with school, established in their careers, and frankly, just have a better handle on their lives, especially balance in their lives, to have kids. More and more couples are also choosing the path of no children but decide to have pets instead.  After all, there is just too much to do, let alone raise children and feed more mouths.  This is a decision I also celebrate because it is important for everyone to make the right choice for their lives and lifestyles.

I got these statistics from this article at http://www.livescience.com/health/american-moms-older-more-educated-100506.html

•The percentage of teen moms and moms over 35 has just about flipped. In 1990, 13 percent of births were to teens while 9 percent were to women over 35. In 2008, the percentages were 10 percent to teens and 14 percent to women over 35.

•The percentage of single moms grew from 28 percent in 1990 to a record 41 percent in 2008.

•More than half of moms, 54 percent, had at least some college-level education in 2006, up from 41 percent in 1990.

•Birth rates for women aged 35 to 39 increased by 47 percent, and rates for women aged 40 to 44 increased by 80 percent over the time period.

•The overall number of babies born has remained relatively stable, rising from 4.2 million in 1990 to 4.3 million in 2008. The country saw a dip in the total number of births coinciding with the recent recession.

Of course, these statistics are interesting to me.  Even among my friends, I am one of the few that is married and has kids.  Then, among the people I have met in my groups like Bunco, Mile High Mammas, I may be slightly behind the power curve but not by much.  It just depends on which group I am with.  In my professional life and among my best friends, it seems that everyone had kids later in life or are still waiting, and among other groups especially mommy-type groups, I am the anomaly (i.e. had kids too late).  So, again, there is no right age or wrong age but I just know I am exhausted.  I cannot imagine having a kid in my 40s or 50s but women are doing it more and more and doing it just fine!   I say whatever choice you make, just stand by it and be okay with where you are because the new face of Mommies in America is not the same as it was for your parents’ generation or their parents and it is changing very rapidly- who knows what the new face will be in another decade!

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